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  • Listen to the person with concern
  • Ask the person if he/she has ever felt unhappy for a long time and
    assure him/her that things can and will change
  • Be especially concerned if the person uses drugs and/or alcohol
    because his or her judgment may be impaired
  • Ask if the person has suicidal thoughts
  • Give the person the CHIMO Helpline number and make sure the person calls
  • Stay with the person and do something together
  • If the person is suicidal and refuses to get help, tell a responsible adult
    or someone you trust as soon as possible
  • Make specific plans to see the person the next day, so he/she has a reason to live
 

What to say to a troubled person

  • “I’m here for you”
  • “I want to hear about what’s bothering you”
  • “I really care about you”
  • “Let’s talk and figure out how to make things better”
  • “Things are tough now, but they will change. You’ve got to hang in there, and I’m here to help”
  • “I would feel horrible if you hurt yourself, and I don’t want you to die”
  • “If I can’t help you, I’ll help you find someone who can help”
  • “No one and nothing is worth taking your life”
 

Don’t

  • Ignore the person
  • Put the person down
  • Change the subject
  • Try to handle it alone if the person doesn’t respond to your efforts to help
  • Suggest drugs or alcohol as a solution

In the majority of suicides, drugs and/or alcohol are a factor. Be more vigilant if you know the person is using drugs and/or alcohol to deal with problems.

 

 

To get help, contact

  • Your local Community Mental Health Centre
  • The nearest hospital Emergency Department
  • Chimo Helpline (24 hrs) – 1-800-667-5005
  • Kids Help Phone – 1-800-668-6868
  • 9-1-1 in case of emergency
  • RCMP – (506) 654-0489
  • The Canadian Mental Health Association
  • Mental Health Outreach Services
  • Family physicians
  • Local clergy
 

Remember

If you are concerned that a person is suicidal – listen carefully, stay with him or her, and get professional help as soon as possible.

You cannot take responsibility for another person’s life - the decision is his or her own - you may, however, be able to help the person see other ways of dealing with his or her problems and pain.